Yes, it’s been fourteen months since I last posted on this blog. A lot has unfolded. Let’s catch up.
2014 In Summary: 2014 was a year of transition. I gave up should for New Years and couldn’t have predicted how dramatically my life would change. In mid-January I embarked on an intensive 21-day coaching practice focused on clarifying my relationships guided by Ayanna Mojica. At the conclusion of this practice, I determined it was time to end my marriage. On March 22, my husband moved back to Southern California to pursue his dream of being a writer. It was an amicable parting.
Faced with living alone for the first time in eight years, radical self-care was required. I’d like to tell you this came naturally and I did it gracefully. Not so much. There were two things that sustained me. First, I spend endless hours hiking in the park near my home. I went there several times a week to clear my head, take in the gorgeous scenery, breathe, and connect with friends. Second, I maintained a regular yoga practice at Yoga on the Ridge. I was in the studio 3-4 times a week and participated in a Yoga for Weight Loss workshop in June. By the end of 2014, I’d lost 24 pounds bringing my grand total to 115 pounds to date.
My divorce was finalized on 7/7/14. I was 35 and twice divorced. As you might imagine, it took some time to get my inner dialogue under control so that I could offer “I am” statements about anything else.
I visited Nashville in early August when I took a road trip with one of my nearest and dearest friends to help her relocate for Divinity school. In mid-August I completed facilitator training for OWL Adult/Young Adult Sexuality Education. This had been on my wish list for two and a half years. It was an amazing experience with an open and loving group of trainees and and awesome trainer whose passion and style I admire. My congregation did our first Adult OWL series in February. Participating in both the classes in February and the facilitator training in August were highlights of my year.
In September I trekked home to Southern Maine to visit my family. My favorite part was enjoying Peanut Butter Parfaits at Dairy Queen with my 85 year old grandmother. Upon my return to Philadelphia, I was delighted by a visit from my father and his girlfriend. It was the first time my dad and I had seen each other in person in a decade.
Following the end of an intense love affair in mid-August, I planted my first garden in late September. This was the third thing that helped me to manage the transitions and grief of 2014. There was something absolutely magical to me about tending to my tiny raised bed. It gave me purpose and reminded me of the interconnected nature of all things. In November it was time for my beloved cat, Knuckles, to transition.
I am blessed with many friends that acted as angels during challenging times. One of them captured my heart in early October and another intense love affair followed. By New Years 2015, it ended. Having looked for love everywhere else, I turned by gaze inward. Again, I wish I could tell you it came naturally and I did it gracefully. Not. So. Much. Reading Mastin Kipp’s Daily Love: Growing into Grace in November, I learned an important prayer that would guide me through the end of the year: “Thy will be done.”
There were wins, challenges, fears faced and tears shed. I will say it was the fullest, most expressive year of my life to date. I awoke in January to find myself a stranger in my life. By December, I was awake and conscious that I am a divine creator.
2015 So Far: In January I chose a word to guide the year ahead: whole-hearted. I’m using it to focus my intentions, guide my interactions, and connect with my heart’s desires. I’ve also been exploring my core desired feelings. So far, in addition to whole-hearted, I’m enjoying the energy of vivacious, sensual delight, and grace-fueled.
I’ve been masterminding The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People with two friends. It’s been powerful already. I committed to one of my dreams. I applied and have been accepted for yoga teacher training to start in September. I’m so excited for the journey ahead.
This February I started co-facilitating two groups of Adult OWL. Our class from last year is reunited and three of us trained as facilitators over the summer. We also have a class of newbies. I’m so grateful and thankful for my friends that encouraged me to put my summer training into practice right away. Start before you’re ready.
I’m itching for spring when I can get back to the park more regularly. I took one of my mastermind partners out for a snowy walk last Sunday. While she was delighting in the wonder of the park, I told her about another one of my dreams. I call it Park 365. I want to capture the magic and wonder of the park and my adventures there throughout the year and share them here on my blog. I’ll start on the spring equinox, March 21st.
I hope you’ve enjoyed catching up on my goings on and learning a bit about how I managed during a year of transition. I’d love to hear about your joys, sorrows, wins and losses in 2014 as well as what you’re looking forward to in 2015. Let a girl hear from you!